I did have a completely different idea for a blog post this week, but something in me said I needed to write this. Got to love it when inspiration hits you when you least expect it. I say at least once a week that I was in a funk or I am in a funk. Let’s talk about how to refresh and reset yourself after being in a funk.
On a weekly basis, I get in my head. When I get it in my head it means I am overthinking things, questioning myself, my decisions… basically everything in existence. I am neurotic. I get in this funk and start to tell myself that I am not good enough and everything I am doing is worthless. Which is stupid… I know. When that happens it is time to refresh & reset yourself after being in a funk.
It helps me… so I hope I can help someone else. It might not seem like much to others, but these really help me. So, some or all of these could possibly help you too. These are in no particular order. Just writing them out as they come to my head.
Take a shower
Nothing says refresh & reset than taking a shower. I don’t know about you, but if you put me in or near water I am instantly relaxed. I wash the bad thoughts that are putting me in this funk. I imagine once my head is under the water from the top of my head to little bitty toes all that negative juju is slowly going down the drain. Then when I wash my body I am scrubbing away all the stank that is making me feel icky and off my game. Down the drain, it goes. Not today Satan! Down with the bad thoughts.
If you follow me on Instagram or any of my social media you may notice I don’t post for days. Why? Because I like to unplug. Sometimes scrolling through social media can get overwhelming. Those pesky negative thoughts come creeping in and I have to stop them in their tracks.
Take time away from social media and enjoy the things you have in your life. It is very easy to get caught up in the hype of it all. So and so got a new bag, They bought a new house, and don’t get me started on the drama, drama, drama.
While unplugging I do things for myself. Things I know that I enjoy and 100% know will refresh and reset my mind. Will I still take a photo or video, yeah, but I don’t jump on social media to post it. It is for my records… for now. When I decide to get back online I can choose to share or not.
I have never been one to tell anyone to go work out, but lately, I have been doing it myself. I have been trying to get my steps up every day to 10k. I will have a post about that coming up in the next couple of weeks. As Elle Woods said “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands, they just don’t.” Excuse the last part, but go with me on this.
We’re going to change it up… how about “exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people don’t think negatively about themselves.”
Take your frustrations out during the workout. Get it all out with grunts and swear words. Fuck Yeah!! Beat your funk to a pulp while you whip your booty in shape. Honestly, I wish I would have known that when I was younger because I would have exercised every time I was feeling down I would be mad skinny by now. Sadly I am not, but this is definitely my go-to now. Better late than never.
Go for a walk
I am lucky to live by a cute little lake that I can walk around every day. I get to see birds, ducks, geese, and turtles. I turn on a personal growth podcast and just walk. You don’t have to think about anything you just walk.
However, listening to those podcasts I always end up letting my mind wander and start thinking about Stephanie in the 2nd grade who said my dress was ugly. Or that time in my Junior year of high school the boy I used to have a crush on was trying to flirt with me and told me I had nice flapjacks. Me, My friend, and his friend all laughed at him. His friend looked at him and said “Dude, you just told Michele she had nice pancakes. What kind of compliment is that?” He replied, “I was talking about her boobs.”
I don’t know if that was supposed to be a compliment or an insult. He said he was trying to flirt, but what an odd thing to say. WHAT AN ODD THING TO REMEMBER???
Write it all down
I know I know I know I bring it up in almost every single post. But I am telling you journaling everything that you are thinking helps a lot more than you think. You can find out things that are bothering you that you didn’t know were. I have learned so much about myself and how my mind works. Hence why I can write this now and tell you what helps me get refreshed & reset myself.
When I was writing it all out in my journal during my funk I learned that I automatically go to “I am not worthy”. For some reason, my mind always thinks everyone is going to leave me. I am unloveable and unworthy of being happy. This is stupid because with all the work I have done with myself I have learned more about my self-worth and my happiness. I know when I start thinking like that it is because I am slipping into old habits. Playing that victim card.
I have a bunch of journal-related content that you might be interested in like:
The Beginners Guide to Journaling
25 simple questions you never ask yourself, but should
Life Audit Questions
How to Start Today – Manifesting the life you want
10 interesting October journal prompts for Self-discovery
World Mental Health Day – Checking In With Yourself
Healing your inner child
Take a day and do absolutely nothing. Binge-watch shows you see on your FYP on TikTok. Since the panoramic (COVID-19) happened I find myself binging a lot of shows. I watched 5 seasons of The Crown, and 15 seasons of Supernatural. Currently watching The Blacklist.
I was never one to binge-watch shows it was never my thing. But I remember my first time like it was yesterday. I felt refreshed and reset, but also beat myself up for a few days. It was when I watched all 9 seasons of How I met your Mother.
Mike was leaving for work at 9a and I brought the bedroom blanket/pillow and curled up on the couch. He said bye and left for the day. I laid there ALL DAMN DAY. He came home at 8p to me in the same position as when he left that morning. Here is how our conversation went:
Mike: Have you been there all day?Michele -Our Redonkulous Life
Mike: Did you pee on the couch or did you get up for that kind of stuff.
Me: No I did not pee the couch. I got up for that and food/drinks.
Mike: Oh okay, cool. You deserve it. I was only asking because I was gonna say… I’m not cleaning the cushions.
Go for a drive
Out of everything on the list, this one has to be my FAVORITE. I never have a destination in mind I turn on my Songs I grew up playlist or my Hype Yourself up! Playlist. If I end up by water or on an empty road it makes the drive that much better. Driving just listening to my favorite songs that I can belt at the top of my lungs.
When I come back home I am ready to do the things I need to because I am refreshed and rested. If I need a reminder I put those same playlists on in my house and do a mini-concert while I am working or cleaning the house.
Mike and I were very lucky to take a much-needed getaway from Florida. Our last vacation was in 2018. We have been together for almost 9 years and have never taken a trip by ourselves. We took a week to go see my sister and nephews in South Carolina. The picture above is about 50 feet from where we camped in a tent at Ocean Lakes Family Campground.
This place had everything Water slides, an outdoor pool, an indoor pool, a mini-golf course, an arcade, a nature center, their own general store, a restaurant and so much more. Although we did not use 95% of the amenities (We just played mini-golf) It was awesome to know it was there.
We slept in a tent on an air mattress and it made for some really good memories. We spent time with the family and also reconnected as a couple. Even if we didn’t leave the state just a few days getaway from our house would have made a huge difference. So take a little getaway to refresh and reset your mind.
Refresh and Reset
I hope these inspired you to take time for yourself so you can refresh and reset yourself. Life can get in the way sometimes and we put it on the back burner, but we need to take that time for ourselves. When we do that we can come back to our normal everyday lives with a clear head to do the things we would have spent overthinking and procrastinating.
Just take some time for yourself. It could be as simple as taking a walk around your neighborhood or saving up money to get out of your state for a bit. It can be as grand or as small as you would like it to be. We just need to refresh and reset every once in a while for our mental health.
Until Next Time, Have a Great Day! Remember you are a badass!
Originally posted April 23, 2021