Self-discovery: 25 questions you never ask yourself, but should


Want to get to know yourself better? Asking yourself the right questions could spark a journey of self-discovery. You can find out who you really are and get a clear vision of what you truly want for your life.

We are told so many things growing up that we don’t question. We don’t stop and ask if what we are doing is bringing a sense of happiness. When answering self-discovery questions you can change any false beliefs you have about yourself.

Asking questions that provoke a thoughtful response can bring insight into these patterns we have subjected ourselves to. We can answer self-discovery questions to change what we know about ourselves and create a positive change in our lives.

How to start answering Self-Discovery Questions

This is all up to you. You decide how many questions you want to answer and how in-depth do you want to go. Not all questions have to be answered. You could pick a few out to answer during the weekend. Or you could just answer one at a time once a day or a week.

No need to rush yourself on answering these questions. Self-discovery does not happen overnight. Decide what pace is good for you. Don’t overwhelm yourself by answering all 25 in one night.

Relax and take your time. Find yourself a quiet, cozy place where you can think freely without distractions.

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Use a journal to record your answers

If you are like me and have to see what you are doing, I suggest getting a journal. Nothing fancy you could use a sheet of paper or a 2.00 notebook from Walmart. I do this so days, weeks or months down the road I can see if my answers have changed. Have I grown as a person?

You can also do this with a laptop, it doesn’t have to be pen to paper. You do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

For me when I ask myself a new question I like to write down my initial thoughts. My answer could be “What kind of question is this?” “What does that have to do with anything?” I let the question linger in my head for a bit and then come back to it.

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Take note of your emotions

All types of emotions can surface when answering these questions. Whatever emotions you are having… write it down. Write down that this question made you angry, made you sad, happy.

Take note of the emotions you are having towards questions. It can provide valuable information into your patterns. Any emotion you have toward a question can be changed if you want it to. This is all about discovering who you are as a person.

Be kind to yourself during this process

Don’t beat yourself up while answering these questions. These are not to make you feel bad, these are again to help you grow as a person. If you don’t want to go about this alone, send me an email and I will help you as much as I can. If not me, ask a friend you trust, who will tell you the truth no matter what.

Again, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to feel each question. Answer them 100% honestly.


25 Self-Discovery Questions

  1. Can you describe your life in one sentence?
  2. When was the last time you tried something new?
  3. Who do you sometimes compare yourself to?
  4. What gets you excited about life?
  5. What life lesson did you learn the hard way?
  6. Are you holding onto something that you need to let go of
  7. If you could choose one book as a mandatory read for all teenagers, which book would you choose?
  8. What do you love most about yourself?
  9. Are you happy with yourself?
  10. What small act of kindness were you once shown that you will never forget?
  11. What is your number one goal for the next six months?
  12. When do you feel most like yourself?
  13. What’s the next big step you need to take?
  14. What is the most valuable life lesson you learned from your parents?
  15. What do you do to deliberately impress others?
  16. How are you pursuing your dreams right now?
  17. What motivates you to be your best?
  18. What one ‘need’ and one ‘want’ will you strive to achieve in the next twelve months?
  19. Right now, at this moment, what do you want most?
  20. What life lessons did you have to experience firsthand before you fully understood them?
  21. What’s the best part of being you?
  22. What do you do to relieve stress?
  23. Who would you like to forgive?
  24. What is draining my energy? Can I reduce it or cut it out?
  25. Are any of my relationships toxic?
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Let me know how they worked out for you

I hope these questions have really opened your eyes and put you on a path of discovering yourself even more. When being open and honest with ourselves the best possible change can happen in your life.

I am currently working on #24. Although my last post was about “The Art of Getting Shit Done”. I found myself all last week just mentally and physically drained. Because of this, I did absolutely nothing and I spent the whole week beating myself up about it. I talk more about it on my Instagram if you would like to follow me over there.

Let me know in the comments below what question you hade a strong reaction to. Do you think your response is something you need to work on or something that will improve your life?

Until next time, Have a good day!


23 Replies to “Self-discovery: 25 questions you never ask yourself, but should”

  1. I’ve been having trouble getting close to my stepkids, but it’s Qs like these (to ask of myself and of them) that are actually helping foster that family intimacy. Thank you!

    1. I hear ya. I have given these questions to my step-daughter to answer as well. We will discuss them as a family after were all done answering them.

  2. I think all of us have so much to discover about ourselves no matter what our age. I loved this post. Thanks for all the self-discovery ideas!

    1. Exactly. I have given the questions to my step-daughter to answer as well.

  3. This is so great to hear doing starting this is a great time to self discover

    1. It is a great time. We have nothing but time right now. lol

  4. Lavern Moore says: Reply

    This is a very timely read. So much inspiration and encouragement that i need!

    1. I am glad you are inspired. Please let me know how answering these questions went.

  5. I find these questions fascinating, especially the one about impressing others. Hmm, I’m going go ask my husband that question. 🙂

    1. Yeah, I have been asking my fiance the same questions.

  6. These questions really got me over here thinking. #25 struck me because yes! but their family so it’s a difficult situation. Toxic is toxic though, family or not!

  7. Wow this is a wonderful way to discover your inner self. Will take the questions surely!!

  8. Haven’t put the time in to contemplate these as suggested, but I do intend to. Very helpful post!

  9. A minimal bunch of those questions, I would say I do ask myself but not the most of them.

  10. Natalia Vorche says: Reply

    Such an interesting article I should write down if What is my stress reliever and the relation that I have.

  11. Such amazing introspective questions. I will record the answers in my journal tomorrow.

  12. These are some great questions to ask ourselves! thank you for this list!

  13. Even if I don’t want to, I’m discovering something new about me everyday. Maybe this quarantine period is giving us more time to discover ourselves.

  14. This is a great list of questions! I am going to print these out and write down the answers like a self-discovery exercise! Thanks!

  15. Wow these are great! And you are right I have not quite thought about some of these. I definitely need to introspect.

  16. Eyy! This actually works! Thank you for this post! In this way, a lot will get there acts together again in no time! 😊❤️

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  18. Elizabeth O says: Reply

    Those questions will help us to see how well we know ourselves. And with that, no one can take control of our emotions and personal decisions.

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