This is a slight rant, but I think it is something that everybody needs to read. Especially, if they are starting a personal growth journey or you are already working on yourself.
There are a few things I have been seeing within the personal growth community. I always want to be completely honest with anyone who stumbles across my blog or anyone else’s. With that being said I want to explain why personal growth is not one size fits all.
Personal growth is not one size fits all
I try with every piece that I write about personal growth that not everything I write about works for everyone. It just happens to be the way that I did it and saw results. But what worked for me may not work for Tom, Dick, and Harry.
Because of my problems and the things I am working on. Those things will be different from you, and you are different from them. Personal growth is supposed to be about growing as a person, not growing to be like me or anyone else.
Any post you read about personal growth, please for the love of all things holy! Do not make it the end all be all. Anything you read from Our Redonkulous Life is to be taken with a grain of salt.
All I hope from my posts is to inspire you to think differently and possibly find me funny. All the while finding tidbits of information that you could see yourself applying to your life. If it doesn’t work, that’s okay its not a big deal.
Look on the bright side
Somehow all of a sudden when you decide to work on yourself. It’s magically engrained in you that you have to be positive all the time.
We are made to feel that in order for us to get anywhere in our journey. We are always supposed to look on the bright side or keep a positive mindset.
I hate to break it to you but if you are truly working on yourself… You need to realize personal growth is not one size fits all and that is okay.
Life is messy and complicated. You can’t just ignore the things going on around you. I know you are not a robot and neither am I. Certain things make you feel certain emotions. You don’t always have to look on the bright side of a shitty situation.
Create your own rules and follow them
There is no rule book on what you can and can’t do while on a personal growth journey. It is perfectly fine for you to completely throw any blog post or self-help book out the effing window and do your own thing.
That is why it is called PERSONAL GROWTH. It is YOUR personal journey to growing as a human. As I said previously personal growth is not one size fits all. Read as much as you can and soak up all the information. Do not think for one second that you have to apply everything to your life. You can choose the bits and pieces that spark you in a way that might improve your life.
If at any point any information makes you feel less than. Like you are not doing as much as the next person. DROP IT. I SAID DROP IT. You do not need to read or support someone’s work if it makes you feel worse than when you started. Create your own rules and live your damn life.
It is okay to have bad days
Life throws ya curve balls and kicks you while you are already down. We have all been there. It is 100% okay for you to have a shitty attitude. Feel your feelings for a few hours, a day, or a week. I feel that anything more than that is pushing that you will be stuck there. We don’t want to be stuck there in the shitty situation.
It is okay to feel your emotions and be sad, angry, or scared. Don’t let fear hold you back when you are done feeling your feels. I am always the firm believer in feeling your feelings. Once you are done and think about it without getting emotional. Figure out the lesson.
I don’t mean the lesson on how to never feel that way again. But the lesson to be better prepared if it happens again. Remember life is unpredictable. Its a rollercoaster of emotions. You are human.
You are better than other people
This one isn’t really from the personal growth community, but I thought it should be added.
I have been told by a few people because I am working on myself. I now present myself as if I better than others. To that all I have to say is:
No, honey, do not get that twisted. I am not better than anybody else. You just don’t like that I am seeing you for the first time. With a clear mind and clear eyes for the shitty person, you really are. That I am now realizing my worth and see how worthless you thought I was.
This may be a little all over the place, but some of these just really burnt my biscuits. These needed to be addressed because personal growth is not one size fits all!
What are something you like and don’t like about personal growth?
Until next time, Have a great day!