How to know if your subconscious mind is sabotaging you? We all may know it as different things like your innermost, unconscious, repressed, suppressed… Whatever you want to call it… It could be holding you back from doing the things you want to do with your life.
At the end of the post, I will be announcing who won my giveaway to win a copy of Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.
One line from one of Maria Forleo’s podcasts lit a fire up under my ass. We will use writing as an example because that is what sparked this week’s post.
Your subconscious mind is a powerful little biatch and let me tell you, you want her on your side…
I mentioned last week that I was having a little bit of writer’s block. So I spent the last 3 days trying to figure out a topic for this week that sparked my interest to sit down and write it because all of us writers know that the 2 P’s of writing are PLEASURE and PAIN. You are ALWAYS writing about one of those topics.
If it doesn’t inspire me in some kind of way then I shouldn’t be writing about it. My post from a couple of weeks ago was proof of that. I put something out just to put something out. It is not a great post and I will be the first to admit that. I have been putting too much pressure on myself to write the “perfect” blog post that is going to bring in all this traffic to my website and social media profiles.
My one big break
Don’t get me wrong that is not why I do what I do, but you know we all wish for that ONE BIG BREAK that just solidifies why we do what we do. I put this pressure on myself that EVERY blog post needs to be super long and jam-packed with information. NO ONE wants to read a 1000-1500 word blog post EVERY SINGLE TIME you come to my site.
It took that one line from Marie Forleo to spark some kind of emotion within me. It made me take a step back and internally think is me and this little biatch on the same page?
I think the fuck not… So let’s discuss how to know if your unconscious mind is sabotaging you…
Changing your Mindset
I know it is a hard thing to do because of personal experiences but we need to start with changing our Mindset and work through it till we get to a deepened state of our mind. You may not think negative thoughts intrude on your mind, but the little voice that is in the back of your head puts fear and doubt into yourself and others.
If the words that come out of your mouth are followed by conjunctions in your head… you are not really saying what you want to say. Those conjunctions are well, but, if, yet and besides. There are more but those are the most common.
Example: Externally you say: I am so happy you got that promotion. But Internally you finish that sentence with: Yet here I am working for this company for years and they get a promotion before me.
The words coming out of your mouth or the thoughts in your brain don’t always match up with what your deep inner conscious thinks. Something we should all work on is changing our inner monologue. It needs to match what is deep down in the darkest parts of our minds. It takes time, a lot of practice, and definitely A LOT of patience. We need to work on taking those conjunction phrases out of our inner conscious minds.
Procrastination or Productivity
I am guilty of this one… It’s either ALL or NOTHING. The day will be productive or you will not get a damn thing done. One thing I am guilty of and I am trying to work on is busy work. I get on the computer with the intention of writing a blog post. I open up WordPress to start writing, but then I tell myself I have to make the social media images for my profiles.
So I open Canva, but then I have to find the perfect photo to go along with what I am saying. The next thing you know I have been at the computer for 3 hours and no work has been accomplished. Just a bunch of tabs open and me cursing at my computer screen.
Now all because of that, my day is shot. This makes me annoyed, frustrated, and need to take a break which means I won’t be getting up from the couch unless I need to use the bathroom or get food.
That needs to stop. It is not benefiting anyone. When I see that I am getting off track I have to stop myself. Sometimes I don’t really notice it but now that I am more consciously aware of my bad habits. I can recognize them quicker. At that moment I can stop myself and get back on track.
Progress not Perfection
I mentioned this at the beginning of this post. I have been chasing perfection rather than just progress. It is a fear of failure. I fear that what I have to say is not good enough or I sound like I regurgitating information given by so many other people. Sometimes I might be because what they said or did was impactful. In my mind, I always grew up thinking I wasn’t good enough. It is how some people made me feel. So if my work is not absolute perfection I don’t want to do it. But then I beat myself up for not producing any content.
It is a never-ending cycle. With each post, I write I am just going to publish it from now on because It is about progress, not perfection. This brings me to my next topic…
I recorded a video and published a blog post about imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome is a bitch. It stops us from doing a lot of things. What has helped me with my imposter syndrome is the phrase “Be the vessel, not the source”.
I am not the end all be all of the information for personal growth or any other topic I discuss on Our Redonkulous Life. With each post, I am the person who is trying to better myself and is sharing my experience to hopefully inspire you to try it for yourself. I am the vessel that shares the information on the source of bettering yourself (personal growth).
All I can do is write my experiences and let you do what you want with it.
Is your subconscious mind is sabotaging you?
I am re-reading this post over and over editing it, adding, subtracting information and I realized I talk a lot about myself. But as I have said I am the vessel, not the source. I feel that if I share what I am thinking and feeling others can relate. In the end, our inner conscious mind may not have our best interests at heart. Why? Because of jealousy, imposter syndrome, other people’s perceptions of us. It could be a number of things, a combination of things either way we need to work on changing our mindset. Telling our subconscious minds to shut up so we practice progress, not perfection, and get rid of imposter syndrome.
In the comments tell me about a time you realize your mind was sabotaging you…
Until Next Time, Have a great day! Remember you are a badass…
Speaking of badass… I am excited to announce the winner of my giveaway to win a copy of Jen Sincero’s You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life.
Congratulations Tina. I will get a hold of you soon to mail you your copy of You are a badass. I have seen the progress you have made in your personal growth journey and I think you are doing amazing. Go give Tina a follow on Instagram so you can follow along her journey as well!
Until Next Time, Have a great day! Remember you are a badass…