Taking back the power of the word NO

I have seen it happen over and over, Hell I have even been there. You have a dream of doing something amazing with your life, but the people around you or companies keep telling you no that you shouldn’t do that. You are constantly being told no, so you don’t. Today we are taking back the power of the word NO.

Taking back the power of the word NO

What kind of life is that?

There are so many lies we tell ourselves about “these people” who know what is best for us. I hate to break it to you, but the ONLY person who knows what is best for you… is YOU.

Being told no is soul-crushing. It gives us this fear that we are not good enough. That even the people who know us don’t think we could make it. We put so much weight on what another person says and give them this validation that they know better and we in fact don’t know anything.

I want to talk about the lies we are told, the lies we tell ourselves, what to do when you are told no and how we are taking back the power of being told no.

The lies we are told

The job you have now is safer

Yes, it may be a reliable job, but if it is not something you like doing. Then why do it? You can do work that you love and still work your day job.

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It’s going to be really hard

If it was easy everyone would be doing it and most of them are but the difference between you and them is that you want this so bad. You eat, sleep, and dream this. That passion is what is going to get you to the next level. If you don’t have that then the next lie will

Not all people succeed

That is true, not all people succeed. The reason we know that is because when the going gets tough people give up rather than fight for what they want. If you are not willing to work hard for this, just know someone else is right behind you willing to do what you won’t.

You don’t know what you are doing

Everyone starts out not knowing what to do. It is okay. As long as you become a long term learner then you will be fine. Learning about what you want to do and how it can constantly change is part of the business.

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You need to save money

If you want to wait forever to start then, by all means, go that route. Just know we see a lot of people starting their own companies with little to no money. I started this blog for less than 20 bucks. Was it more my second year, yes, but I had 12 months to save for it.

The lies we tell ourselves

I am not talented enough

This is you suffering from impostor syndrome. You think about all the others who are doing what you want to do and believe that you are not good enough. If you put your own little spin on what you want then you stand out from the rest of the crowd. If you have even the slightest creative bone in your body to start going after your dreams you are talented enough and others will see that.

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I can’t because of my age

Age is just a number. Stan Lee got his big break at 39. Alan Rickman was 42. Bob Ross was 41. Oprah Winfrey was was 32 when her talk show first went national in 1986. Steve Carell did not become a household name until he starred in the office at age 43. I could keep going, but you catch my drift. Age doesn’t mean anything if you have the passion and work ethic to back up what you want to do.

I don’t deserve it

That has to be the most heartbreaking thing to tell yourself. That you think that little of yourself and tell yourself that you don’t deserve something. Something that brings you joy and happiness. You are made for more and deserve everything you have ever wanted in this world, but it won’t be handed to you. You need to fight for all of that.

I am too busy

The things we tell ourselves. Turn off the TV, put your phone down. You have time. If this is something you really want to do. You have already had the conversation with yourself about how hard it will be to do and you still want to do it. You will make time. No one is ever to busy for their dreams and goals. Make the conscious decision to show up for yourself every damn day!

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I will fail

Well, you will with that attitude. Changing the way you think can bring a lot of opportunities your way. If you think shitty thoughts, shitty things will happen to you. I am not saying live your life with your head in the clouds. You can be realistic and still hope for the best. You know that saying “Hope for the best, prepare for the worse.” Always believe you will succeed, but in that off chance you don’t… don’t give up. It is just an obstacle, learn from it, and move on.

The greatest mistake you can make in your life is to be continually fearing you will make one.
-Elbert Hubbard

What to do when you are told no

Use it as motivation

If those around you are telling you no use it to fuel your passion to prove them wrong. Most people are only telling you no because of their own fears.

Ask what made it a no for them

If it was a company that told you no ask them why. Make it a learning/teachable moment. Take constructive criticism you are given and apply what you think might be useful to help reach your dream.

Respect why they said no

Do not throw a temper tantrum because they said no. A company may have its reasons, but you don’t want to say something you will regret. Conduct yourself in a professional manner.

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Don’t burn that bridge

Just because they said no now doesn’t mean it will be a no forever. Don’t say or do something you will regret later on.

Taking back the power of the word NO

No doesn’t mean you failed

Taking back the power of the word NO – If a company tells you no, it doesn’t mean you failed it means you were not the right fit for them now.

No doesn’t mean you give up

Taking back the power of the word NO- Receiving a no from anyone should never result in you giving up.

No is never the final answer

I have said previously now twice that no is not the final answer. If you can figure out a way to do what you needed that company for then do it without them. Rachel Hollis was turned down by many publishers for her book “Party Girl”. She took the many nos she got and figured out how to publish her book by herself.

No should make you want it more

Continuing with Rachel. all of those made her want it more because she believed in that book so much. If she took those nos as she shouldn’t write again we would not have all the amazing books she has written since then. With each, no received it should fire a yes inside of you.

Don’t waste another minute

If there is something you have been wanting to do but keep telling yourself all of these lies above. You need to start today. Get out of your comfort zone and the things you have always wanted to do.

This very moment and every moment that is to come… stop letting others tell you no, stop telling yourself no, and definitely stop letting no be your final answer. Giving up when you hear the word no you will never know what your life could have been if you kept pushing forward. That is how we start taking back the power of the word NO

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Taking back the power of the word NO

22 Replies to “Taking back the power of the word NO”

  1. We sometimes make excuses just to make ourselves feel good about our inability to succeed at something. The only person that can stop you from reaching that goal is YOU. Thank you for such an inspiring article.

    1. 100% it is us. We let others have this power over us and influence our decisions, actions, and self-worth. No one has that much power over your life except for you.

  2. Amazing post. I will stop telling myself no and I’ll continue to follow my dreams. Thank you

  3. What an empowering post! There are so many reasons not to do something- we need to have more faith in ourselves and our own judgement!

    1. Sienna, we do need to have more faith in ourselves and others telling us no shouldn’t stop us from living the life we deserve.

  4. This is all great advice with regards to taking back the power of no or in my own terms, dealing with objections. A lot of what you discuss here is what is often taught in major sales trainings and negotiation classes. Often people here NO and they immediately assume the conversation is over. But if you dive a wee bit deeper into why you received the NO, you may find a simple objection that is stopping you from receiving the Yes you needed.

    1. Exactly. The no you hear should be the motivation to do better for yourself.

  5. love this positive inspiring sharing from you, turn NO into a motivation where possible. really enjoy my read, thanks! cheers, siennylovesdrawing 😀

    1. Just because you hear no, doesn’t mean it is the final end all be all answer. If you believe in what you are doing so much a no should not stop you from working towards your goals and dreams.

  6. What an inspiring article! Very true though to be successful we should not take NO as a final answer or a negative word instead use it as a motivation to move forward.

    1. There have been countless times I have been told no, that I shouldn’t start this blog. That it is a waste of time. If I listened to those people I wouldn’t be a year and a half into it. Working for myself and doing things I love is what I want and I will not let anyone have the power of telling me no I shouldn’t do something.

  7. Wow! I love this! I like how you wrote this especially the message you want to convey. You are write that getting a no should not stop us from doing anything we like. This is our life after all. Great blog!

    1. When it comes to living your life and doing the things you want no should not be the final answer.

  8. I think judging what is good and need for you and being able to say ‘no’ freely and without issues is powerful. It keeps unnecessary pressure out of your life

    1. It’s not about you saying no freely to keep out unnecessary pressures out of your life. It’s about going after your dreams and when you put yourself out of your comfort zone to say this is what I want to do and people tell you no. This is a reminder that the people around you telling you no do not dictate your life. You choose the things you want to do and if someone tells you no, you need to find a different approach to doing what you want to do.

  9. I cannot even come to count the number of times I’ve heard no from colleagues, managers, bosses…it’s always been mainly in an environment outside of my own. Thanks for this post because it serves as a healthy reminder to myself to take claim back of NO! Thank you!

    1. Although you have been told no, Do not let it be the final reason you do not do something. Especially if its something you are dreaming of doing.

  10. I agree that it’s very important that we are all honest with ourselves. It was really interesting to read all this especially all the articles “the lies we tell ourselves.”

  11. Rebecca Lerner says: Reply

    No can be such a powerful thing to reclaim! Love this inspirational post.

    1. No Is a powerful word. No one should be telling you what you can and can’t do.

  12. You’ve no idea how much I needed this!! I’ve been feeling so down since my birthday but your post has made me feeling even a spark of optimism. Thank you 💛

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    1. Kerry-Ann I am glad I could bring you some positivity and optimism. Happy belated birthday!

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